Mentally & Emotionally
As parents we feel in disarray mentally & emotionally at any given time… and it is okay. But guess what the answer is…balance!!! Being a mom or dad trying to raise kids with either have very little money, time or patience is usually the culprit to this momemt of disarray that we feel. No time to even take a shower by yourself, to take your shoes off and sit in silence or even to do something just for yourself. You will not love motherhood or fatherhood all the time. Being filled with mom or dad guilt because you feel like you are failing horribly at it, is all normal. Do this: start with silencing your mind and taking a breath wherever you are (seriously… now count slowly to 10 forward then backwards.)when we count to 10, we are taking a time-out. We’re letting go of the need to be in control from melting or exploding. The counting occupies us. It changes the pace and depth of our breathing, and the contents of our mind in the right now-moment. Aaahh…much better!
Now, decide right now that you are going to start taking advantage of all of the small moments that your kids have, to start building memories with them.Start with five (5) minutes of real engagement with each of them at separate times (without a phone, computer or t.V., unless it’s something they want to show you). This will help change your attitude & perspective towards motherhood & fatherhood. By doing this you will learn so much about your child and as importantly, about yourself. We are finding value.
Allow yourself to be happier, more fulfilled, then your home will be full of great long lasting memories as you keep working on spending intentional time with the ones you care about. Psssst…and guess what??? You can apply this to any relationship you have!!! #appreciation=intentional time
